Getting the "Massage" Across

     They say that music is a language understood across cultural, societal, and religious channels. I don't have to speak German to understand the emotions behind Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata. The piano notes reach into a part of me where grammar and specific societal cues don't matter; the pianist might speak Russian and the composer might have spoken German, but we all for one moment are connected.

     But, and maybe even more primal than the beats and rhythms with which we identify, is that of the human touch. From the beginning of time, gestures and the physical touch has done more to send a message to another person than words ever could. Think of simple things like a hug, hand-shake, or gentle pat on the back. It doesn't matter where in the world a hug is witnessed, or the particular national language of the country you are visiting. A hug, usually accompanied by a smile, sends a message of happiness, joy, and even love.

     In couple's counseling or for those looking to re-vamp their love lives, therapists and counselors often advise increasing the physical contact with one's partner. This could be as simple as stroking your partner's hand while riding on the subway or, after a long day, giving him/her a much needed massage. This gesture goes beyond, "I love you." It says, "I care and want to see you happy."

     Massages and other such physical communiqués aren't reserved for those in a romantic relationship. A friend of mine takes a yearly Spa retreat with her sister and two best friends. They indulge in different massages, pedicures, facials, etc… These four women take turns "treating" each other to each different event. The gesture, or rather retreat, speaks volumes about their fun-loving, trusting relationships - solidifying their friendships into closer bonds.

     Lastly, a small rub or pat means reassurance. It says, "Hang in there, I'm rooting for you - it'll be better soon." Regardless of all the medicine our mothers could have given us after a particularly bad tummy ache, nothing felt more comforting or alleviating than the gentle, soft rubbing of her warm hand on our aching tummies.

     By giving or receiving a massage, rub, or even a few small squeezes, the physical nature of the act may very well take back seat to the emotional message it delivers. Like the old adage proves, actions speak louder than words.